“If you don’t learn how to be scared, you’ll never really learn how to be brave.”
“…there are many things that we cant understand. the past. the bad things that happened… and we become afraid. of what might happen in the future. its okay to be afraid. but we have to keep hoping and believing… to keep hoping and trying our best to be good and do good. even when we’re afraid”
THE LONG-TERM EFFECTS OF DOMESTIC VILOLENCE
The long term effects of domestic violence have not begun to be fully documented. Battered women suffer physical and mental problems as a result of domestic violence. Battering is the single major cause of injury to women, more significant that auto accidents, rapes, or muggings. In fact, the emotional and psychological abuse inflicted by batterers may be more costly to treat in the short-run than physical injury. Many of the physical injuries sustained by women seem to cause medical difficulties as women grow older. Arthritis, hypertension and heart disease have been identified by battered women as directly caused or aggravated by domestic violence suffered early in their adult lives.
Battered women lose their jobs because of absenteeism due to illness as a result of the violence. Absences occasioned by court appearances also jeopardize women's livelihood. Battered women may have to move many times to avoid violence. Moving is costly and can interfere with continuity of employment. Battered women often lose family and friends as a result of the battering. First, the batterer isolates them from family and friends. Battered women then become embarrassed by the abuse inflicted upon them and withdraw from support persons to avoid embarrassment.
Some battered women are abandoned by their church when separating from abusers, since some religious doctrines prohibit separation or divorce regardless of the severity of abuse.
Many battered women have had to forgo financial security during divorce proceedings to avoid further abuse. As a result they are impoverished as they grow older. One-third of the children who witness the battering of their mothers demonstrate significant behavioral and/or emotional problems, including psychosomatic disorders, stuttering, anxiety and fears, sleep disruption, excessive crying and school problems.
Those boys who witness their fathers' abuse of their mothers are more likely to inflict severe violence as adults. Data suggest that girls who witness maternal abuse may tolerate abuse as adults more than girls who do not. These negative effects maybe diminished if the child benefits from intervention by the law and domestic violence programs.
- 3.4 million people over the age of 18 are stalked each year in the United States.
- 3 in 4 stalking victims are stalked by someone they know.
- 30% of stalking victims are stalked by a current or former intimate partner.
- 10% of stalking victims are stalked by a stranger.
- Persons aged 18-24 years experience the highest rate of stalking.
- 11% of stalking victims have been stalked for 5 years or more.
- 46% of stalking victims experience at least one unwanted contact per week.
- 1 in 4 victims report being stalked through the use of some form of technology (such as e-mail or instant messaging).
- 10% of victims report being monitored with global positioning systems (GPS), and 8% report being monitored through video or digital cameras, or listening devices.
All violence is the result of people tricking themselves into believing that their pain derives from other people and that consequently those people deserve to be punished. ~Marshall Rosenberg
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He has achieved success who has lived well, laughed often and loved much; who has gained the respect of intelligent men and the love of little children; who has filled his niche and accomplished his task; who has left the world better than he found it, whether by an improved poppy, a perfect poem, or a rescued soul; who has never lacked appreciation of earth's beauty or failed to express it; who has always looked for the best in others and given them the best he had; whose life was an inspiration; whose memory a benediction. ~Bessie Stanley, 1905
I PLEDGE ALLEGIANCE TO ALL THE THINGS GOOD ABOUT ME
I pledge Allegiance ... to all the things that are good about me ... and, I will, from this day forward:
No longer try to be everything to everybody, Nor will I be someone I’m not.
I will no longer use all my energies to fulfill the dreams of others while mine go unattended.
I will use my assertive right to take charge of my life.
I will never again know guilt.
I will fight the manipulators and their ploys by standing up for myself and my ideals.
I will insist on being treated with dignity, and demand goodness in my life.
I will speak the truth quietly and clearly and listen to others.
I will be the judge of my behavior, thoughts and emotions ... and I will be responsible for them.
I will always challenge put-downs.
I will destroy negative thoughts and fears of rejections.
I will not distress myself with imaginings.
I will be gentle with myself and strive to be happy.
I will live positively ... and I will begin now.
The Elevation of Personal Dignity Seminars // Principled Core
"This life is yours. Take the power to choose what you want to do and do it well. Take the power to love what you want in life and love it honestly. Take the power to walk in the forest and be a part of nature. Take the power to control your own life. No one else can do it for you. Take the power to make your life happy."
~Susan Polis Schutz
DOMESTIC VIOLENCE KILLS LAW ENFORCEMENT OFFICERS TOO
Thirteen law officers were killed last year in the United States while responding to domestic violence calls, and thousands more are assaulted every year. Children exposed to domestic violence are four times more likely to be arrested for other crimes.
THE KEY: This kind of crime has a generational impact.
RECOGNIZE DOMESTIC VIOLENCE AGAINST MEN
Domestic violence — also known as domestic abuse, battering or intimate partner violence — occurs between people in an intimate relationship. Domestic violence against men can take many forms, including emotional, sexual and physical abuse and threats of abuse. It can happen in heterosexual or same sex relationships.
It might not be easy to recognize domestic violence against men. Early in the relationship, your partner might seem attentive, generous and protective in ways that later turn out to be controlling and frightening. Initially, the abuse might appear as isolated incidents. Your partner might apologize and promise not to abuse you again.
DOMESTIC VIOLENCE - THE FACTS
A woman is battered every nine seconds.
One in seven women seen for general medical care report violence in their relationship.
Between one and two million women in the US have a history of partner violence.
One in nine women report recent domestic abuse and more than one in two women report a lifetime prevalence of violence.
Approximately 97 percent of the victims of domestic violence are women.
In at least half of the cases of child abuse, mothers are also being abused.
Children of abused mothers are six times more likely to attempt suicide and 50 percent more likely to abuse drugs and alcohol.
One in five women who are pregnant also experience domestic violence.
Women who are physically or sexually abused during pregnancy are more likely than non-abused women to deliver low-birth weight babies and to delay seeking prenatal care.
Domestic violence can result in acute injury, chronic illness, mental health problems, substance abuse, and sometimes death.
“We have an opportunity to let victims know they can call for help. We can make certain that offenders are held accountable if they so much as take that right from you. Since my years with my abuser I learned many things. I learned to hold my head up high. I learned that every trial and every scar makes us who we are. I learned to trust in God. And I learned not to give up. I will continue to stand and speak so I can help victims obtain the one thing they want more than anything and that is their freedom,”
~ Celena Roby
ARE YOU ONE IN EVERY FOUR?
One in every four women will experience domestic violence in her lifetime. An estimated 1.3 million women are victims of physical assault by an intimate partner each year. Almost one-third of female homicide victims that are reported in police records are killed by an intimate partner.
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